Talking to Yourself Isn’t Crazy. It’s Necessary.

Let’s talk about positive affirmations. Not the hyped-up, feel-good kind that sound nice but don’t land. I’m talking about the real kind. The kind you say to yourself when no one’s around. The kind that helps you stand up a little straighter when life tries to knock you down.

Most people are already talking to themselves. They just don’t realize how often they’re saying things that tear them down instead of lifting them up. I’ve heard people say things like, “I always mess this up,” or “I’m not good enough,” without thinking twice. But your mind is always listening, and after a while, it starts to believe the script it’s been handed.

That’s why intentional, positive affirmations matter. It’s not about pretending everything is great when it’s not. It’s about choosing what you want to believe and repeating it enough that it starts to settle into your bones.

Here’s something I’ve learned over the years. The most powerful affirmations are the ones you write for yourself. Not the ones copied from a quote or found online. The ones that speak directly to what you’re facing in the moment.

If you’re anxious about an interview, your affirmation might be, “I’ve prepared for this, and I can handle it.”If you’re trying to heal from a breakup, it could be, “I deserve relationships that are healthy and mutual.”If you’re staring down a creative block, maybe it’s, “My ideas are worth exploring, even if they aren’t perfect right away.”

Make them specific. Make them yours. That’s where the power is.

Try saying them when you wake up. Or before you step into a challenge. Or when self-doubt starts creeping in. You don’t have to say it loud. You just have to mean it.

And if it feels awkward at first, that’s alright. Most good things feel that way when you start. Give it a little time. The more you say it, the more your mind starts to recognize it as truth.

If you forget or miss a day, just pick it back up. No guilt. Just practice.

Let this be the day you talk to yourself like someone who matters.